Peaceville asked: I wasn’t going to ask this question but finally decided to after tonight. I changed the names as to not incriminate anyone in any way. This is kinda long, so if you don’t want to read anything long, don’t read.
3 days ago I was at the gym, and as I’m ready to get on the exercise bike, this woman is on an exercise machine talking to another member, Paul, and she looks in my general direction and says “Oh my God… Oh my God…” in a disgusted voice. I honestly did not think she was referring to me because I wasn’t doing anything other than adjusting the seat on the bike and getting ready to get on the bike. I figured she was talking about something else. So I thought nothing of it and worked out.
Then the next day, I arrive to the gym, and she’s on the same machine talking to the same guy, and as I pass her on the way to the men’s locker room, I hear her exclaim “right on time” in a sarcastic way. Still, I think nothing of it. When I change and come out the locker room, I’m on my cellphone talking to my dad. And I see her and her friend glance at me and mutter something. I head to the mat to stretch while still talking to my dad. And I hear her say something like “He’s not even picking anything up!” It sounded like she may have been talking about me being on the phone. For the record, yes, you can pick up cellphone signals in the gym (at least where I was) so I don’t know what she was talking about. Still, I think nothing of it because I know I have a history of being paranoid and thinking someone is talking about me when they’re not. I figured it was just a coincidence. I get on a weight machine and the whole time I hear her talking to Paul, and he’s responding to her, saying something like “I’ve seen him here for years and he seems like a nice guy. Maybe he’s just quiet.” I’m guessing they were talking about me but doing it in a way that they made it seem like they were talking about something else. Then I heard him say “Oh, so you’ve noticed a pattern, huh?” I couldn’t really hear her. Then as she’s leaving he says something to her like “You’re racking your brain over this… maybe talk to Reggie.” Reggie is the head trainer at the gym and oversees activities in that part of the gym. And she leaves. Still, I figure they can’t be talking about me.
The third day I didn’t hear her say anything but I thought I saw her glancing at me in the mirror with a disgusted look on her face once or twice. But I basically ignored her because I was just trying to focus on my workout. It’s possible something to her friend later while I was in another part of the gym, but I wouldn’t know.
And tonight, she arrives right as I’m wrapping up my workout. I do some stretching and head to the locker room. I get dressed and go to wash my hands. Reggie walks in the locker room, but not to do anything. He throws something in the trash and leaves. I thought it was odd. After done washing my hands, I leave. Reggie is talking to the woman, and the woman on the machine looks in my direction and says “Oh… Jesus Christ”. I’m very intuitive and pick up on things real well, and I’m guessing she told Reggie to go in the locker room to see what I’m doing. Anyway, there have been way too many coincidences and now after tonight, I’m about 90-95% sure that all those comments she’s made in the past 4 workouts at the gym were about me.
Now let me try to fill in the blanks to give you the whole story:
I’ve been a member of this gym since 2006. And started coming off-and-on as a guest in 2005. I remember seeing her as far back as 2005 (since I started coming there). I’ll be perfectly honest, I have stared at her a couple times. She’s a female, I’m a male, and I did “check her out” a few times. And I think she’s caught me a couple times. But that’s it. But I think that’s normal, because guys do that all the time. And I’ve caught women checking me out. I remember a woman that has stared at my crotch, and another woman that was staring at my butt as I worked out (I saw her reflection in the mirror). Not to mention stares from possibly gay men. But I am definitely not “stalking”. She seems to be in about her mid 30’s, and I’m in my mid 20’s.
At one point in 2007, I’d see her almost daily for weeks on end because our workout schedules were around the same time. In 2008 however, I’ve worked out the same time as her a total of maybe 7 times. And this year, maybe 4 or 5 times. It’s not like I see her every day.
I’m also quiet and keep to myself there, and I’m aware that this type of personality might unease people. But I go to the gym to workout, not socialize. But I do talk to a couple people. I’ve talked to both Reggie and Paul on rare occassions, and I believe that’s why Paul vouched for me when she was complaining, because he figured I was “normal”.
I’ve never had an incident with anyone at any gym. Like I said, I just keep to myself, workout for a couple hours, and leave. I’ve seen her get in an incident with someone else b
I’ve never had an incident with anyone at any gym. Like I said, I just keep to myself, workout for a couple hours, and leave. I’ve seen her get in an incident with someone else before. I remember her arguing with some woman because the woman was talking on a cellphone, and technically cellphone use is forbidden in the gym. And they had a back-and-forth exchange. She doesn’t seem like a friendly person. Sure, she socializes with Reggie & Paul, but I believe that’s because both those guys are very outgoing and social. Reggie the trainer is like some kind of ladies’ man that talks to every woman that works out there. And Paul is loud, boisterous, and talks to everyone period.
But my question is, what should I do? I tried to ignore it and just work out, but now if it continues I’m thinking about talking to Reggie. I don’t want to talk to her about it because she’s a woman and I’m not trying to get conflictive with a woman. And she’d probably be freaked out anyways. But I can’t go to a g
But I can’t go to a gym with someone saying “Oh God” and “Jesus Christ” everytime they see my face. It’s a form of harrassment. She probably doesn’t realize that I’m probably as scared of her as she is of me. Like I said, I don’t get in incidents with people at gyms. I don’t know if she’s going to try to report me, attack me, go off verbally on me, or what. In a way it makes me angry and defiant and I’ll just continue going to the gym, because I’ve done nothing wrong.
LuckySum: Thanks. Yes, I’m aware those two gym guys will have their eye on me. But Paul seemed to vouch for me because he’s seen me here for years and on the rare times he’s spoken to me, he saw I was normal. Reggie has also spoken to me and he & I are on good terms. I do believe she is very sensitive because perhaps she has really been stalked in the past. Your answer was so on point it’s as if you were there! And funny line about the masturbating in the bathroom!
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